Our second reading was read by the other Mrs. Aquila, Katie. Katie is Marc's sister-in-law and also the mother of our flower girl. Marc and I both couldn't picture our wedding without having Katie involved. But with her husband as best man, her daughter as flower girl and her son also in attendance we didn't want to make it too hard on her. Thankfully she agreed to read an excerpt from The Irrational Season by Madeleine L'Engle during our wedding ceremony. She apologized when her son had to join her for the reading but I think that made it even more special.
But ultimately there comes a moment when a decision must be made. Ultimately two people who love each other must ask themselves how much they hope for as their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take. It is indeed a fearful gamble. Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created, so that, together we become a new creature.
To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take.If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation. It takes a lifetime to learn another person. When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-creation which is our human calling, and which implies such risk that it is often rejected.
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